Lesson 2: Books that impacted my life the most this year

1. Gifts of Imperfections by D.  Brene Brown

 

This book changed my life and has become the manual from where I try to lead my life daily. There are 13 lessons that Dr. Brene shares about, I managed to reflect on 9 of the 13. You can find out more about these on my blog.

These lessons include :  Do not rush your life, Being flexible with my goals, Open Heart, Letting go of comparison , Letting go of perfectionism , letting go of self-doubt , letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth , letting go of the need for certainty , Letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle.

On moments when I feel like I am going back to the gutter, I turn on my audible and listen to a chapter that deals with the issue at hand and I get my mind to be transformed and my perspective becomes transformed

 

2. How will you measure your life – James Allworth, Clayton M

 

This books starts with a story of what happens in almost every generation, the success stories and the pitfalls. In fact this books reminds me a lot of a sermon by TDJ β€œPressure of life”. It encouraged me to stay on course with my values of integrity, to lead my life within my means and pursue my commitment to my husband and kids no matter what the world says and whether or not loyalty and faithfulness comes out of fashion. I love this book so much I had to share it with most of my friends. It answered my questions, how can I be successful in my career, how to commit and make my marriage commitment be rewarding including extended family and finally, how to lead a life of integrity and stay out of jail.

If you are a driven person, who realizes that indeed the road to heaven if very narrow and suitable for 1 person at a time, yet you feel alone , like you the only one taking the high road. Read this book

I have no doubt that if every Manager in Government used this as part of their coaching package, corruption would reduce drastically. I will be recommending it for many years to come.

 

3. Wisdom of Sundays by Oprah Winfrey

This book is amazing, a collection of well refined interviews from Super Soul Sundays. This book is very rich with diverse topics and mentors, from Iyanla Vanzant, Gary Zukav. From this book, I discovered many more other books that I have bought and am studying now. I listen to this book at least once a week and I have clocked more than a thousand hours since owning it.

4. Success Commandments( audio=Hollywood Commandments) by Devon Franklin

This book is perfect for our time and generation. Devon uses the word of God to help us navigate the skills set to impact the world that we live in. Devon is unashamed to be a dedicate Christian and his passion for Christ, sense of vision, commitment challenges me to strive being the best at what I do.

Devon gives practical day to day steps on how to be vigilant and use the skills to grow into the person God wants you to be, and his book is relevant for a person working for the church or a president of the country. I will be using this as my coaching pack and I plan to buy each and every one in my team for the December gift.  

 

Using Audible Books has by been the best decision for my life. In the two hours I spent on the road daily , I use the time wisely and have benefited from this app. So I recommend it for working moms and anyone who spends a bit of time commuting!!!

Please share with me your best reads for the year – I would like to hear πŸ‘‚

Book Review – Success Commandments by Devon Franklin

Once upon a time I was employed as a Bookkeeper , my very first employment after University .

My duties included taking care of the general staff and affairs of the company including the receptionist who was my boss’s close relative. She used to fast most of the weekdays and would , from time to time step into the bathroom .. to pray … which meant neglecting the front desk and the calls …. in order to pray

Each time she did that she would call out to me to mind the front office and this impacted my work negatively

I was caught between a rock and a hard place. I didn’t want to tell my boss and I knew that I needed to master the courage to speak to her about this

The biggest challenge for me was not the fasting and the prayer , but the timing and her seemingly lack of understanding of her role and expectations of her job and position

Reception/ front desk is the face of the company . To date , a phone that rings 3 times gets my gut moving πŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈ

It didn’t take me a few days to sit her down and ask her to pray during lunch …. not because it was wrong to pray …. and not because I didn’t want to chip in for her but because that’s what she was hired to do .

She hated me for this 🀣🀣🀣🀣

And she asked if I was a real Christian 🀣🀣🀣

Granted , our office did need a lot of prayers but that was just not the way nor the time you do it !!!

This act assured me that indeed I am called !!! I am able to separate my faith and beliefs and not have them cloud my responsibility

I confidently defended my actions and logic to my boss – her relative . I was proud of myself for risking that for my conviction πŸ‘πŸΏ

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I hope this does makes sense

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Sadly I have seen Christians doing these mistakes over and over in a workplace. I used to assume that all Christians have a sense of a calling about their day to day jobs and it didn’t take me long to realize that , it was not the case

During my early career days it used to make so sad until I realize that we lacked a certain perspective

We don’t get taught enough how to be stewards who take our jobs seriously . We know God will reward the work of our hands but there is still a significantly huge gap between the work we do inside church walls vs the work we do at our workplaces daily

I have always worked with religious people in my work life and teams that I have managed , that some days I would pause and think , if all of them could put their convictions together and just teamed up , we could see miracles …

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Most Christians believe that their calling is within the four walls of the church

And that is not true !!!

We must aspire to be Joseph’s Meshack and Abednego…..

It is a must

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If you want to find out how to match your faith and your day to day work life please read this book !!!! I have never read a book like this before !!!

I meet people who ask me to mentor them and this is the book that will be part of the mentorship pack

If you can master the things written in this book ….. maaaaan you will be walking on water

Mncwiiiii struu 🀞🏾🀞🏾🀞🏾

Thank you DeVon Franklin this book is incredible

We are going to need more wine πŸ·!!

I finished this book in two days πŸ’ƒπŸΎπŸ’ƒπŸΎπŸ’ƒπŸΎπŸ’ƒπŸΎKindle version Happy to be recovering in my reading habits
Gabrielle Union is my favorite actress. I feel like I know her personally, it could be that many of my acquaintances used to say I look like her …. in my teens okay πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜† 

The characters she plays are strong independent thought and very witty … a lot of what I posses
We are going to need more wine confirmed a lot of what I know about the strength and weaknesses of this type of character, so glad that my data gathering ability was on point about her !!! And I’m no longer going to deny the innate similarities we have 🀣🀣🀣
There’s a lot more I’m going to write about this book .. can’t wait 

Awesome read nonetheless πŸ‘πŸΏπŸ‘πŸΏπŸ‘πŸΏπŸ‘πŸΏ

Originals – chapter 1

Lessons learned 

I like the third part of definition of the word “originals”

” a person who is different from other people in an appealing or interesting way”

This reminded me a lot of so many prophetic words spoken over my life. Over and above my relationship with the Holy Spirit from the young age, I have been blessed to receive a spoken word by both strangers and familiar faces who would tell me that there is something different about me.

I love Adams when he says originality is taking the road less traveled….. ultimately making things better. I know now that this is how I describe myself. …. I am an original 😬I always believe that there’s an alternative, a better way of doing things. I believe that’s why I am so great at aligning strategy to a vision, I am always graced with knowing “what” must be done. I don’t always know the how and I can discover a thousand how’s and allow a team effort to identify the ultimate solution 

Mmhhhnn originals are an exception not a rule. This I can agree with. I recently accepted that it’s not all of us that are meant to be wealthy. I noticed that contrary to my young innocent understanding and upbringing, I desired all of us, the whole community of Warden to have wealth, with time I understand that meeting the basic needs is what is of critical importance. I can now relate with fact that there’s few Zuckerbegs etc. We each have something to give to this world, that’s why some will be teachers , nurses and without their services , truly we wouldn’t have a society  with balance and humility.Generally these jobs are not the most paying yet the most fulfilling . My point is most people use the expression ” for peaces sake” I didn’t do this I didn’t ask them I chose to walk away , for the sake of peace. This doesn’t refer only to moments of anger but it can be the simplest form of conflict or where two people differ with how to solve a problem. People’s general behavior is to “avoid” the situation and not to ask how best or if the alternative is available

So to a certain degree , yes, it takes a few people to say, I don’t like how my work is and instead of leaving to seek new pastures , I’ll rather fix this current environment. Adam says, these originals create the jobs they want. When I read this chapter , I said to myself, it’s important to be able to separate the different stages of ones career. I guess it is different for each time or season of your life 

Mine was

My first job as a bookkeeper was good but I was young , needed experience and had some ambition and goals to achieve. I also stayed at this job for four months without a salary because things I needed the experience and I thought I was being loyal meanwhile things were going bad. I could have potentially damaged relationships through this job , rent was always paid late and I had to rely on my brother to support me during this time.Even if I wanted to create the work environment I wanted , through this company and at that time, it wouldn’t have worked . So I felt the need to interpret Adam in my context 

This statement couldn’t have been relevant either in my second employer. I was 23 when I joined , a family owned and managed business with my closest supervisor having been there for eight years and her boss twenty years, with no other positions being created or formally structured. Again this fact doesn’t dispel possibilities that in the private sector positions are created without the red tape as compared to public sector institutions. I needed to grow and expand the knowledge and skill set I had already acquired 

I did however build the environment that I wanted to work for. I created what I desired. I didn’t listen to the gossip or perception. I went in and found out stuff for myself 

I can relate with this statement in this season of my life. I feel having children is one way that I challenge myself and in so doing I strengthen my resilience muscles. Before kids I did leave things easily, not invest time in finding the solution, avoiding a situation and search for something else was easier then than it is right now

Whilst I have always been a catalyst in every position I have held, I am indeed maturing better with age. I’m now loving this process of trying it all, intentionally seeking for a solution instead of packing my bags and leaving my current employer

Whilst I wait for a new opportunity elsewhere, I am committed to leaving a good trail of work and deeds

Chapter 1… to be continued