Celebrating my 37th birthday during Covid

I celebrated turning 37 on the 28th April !!! Happy birthday to meee! Before Covid I had this idea that I would do lunch with my family and close friends and call the gathering a birthday party, something I have never had in my life. Alas COVID happened but I still had the best day of my life.

A beautiful story was told by @chrystalhurst about how her late mom showed up for them as kids and through to adulthood . One of the things she did was come up with this idea that on each person’s birthday, she will be serving you your favorite meal on this “special” plate .
This idea resonated so much with me that I even introduced to my family 😄😄😄.As someone who has been celebrating her birthday for the last twenty years only , I am learning each day how important celebration is especially that I have kids. Having unique family traditions is something that I value and this one is staying !!!✅✅


The girls are so excited and looking forward to their birthdays and I think this new tradition will help us thrive on being grateful for one another. #stayhomesa #birthdaycelebratrion #newtradition

So here’s to many years of celebration and adjusting to life as moments present themselves to us !!!

What made this day special ??

  • KG cut my hair !!!! And he had never cut anyone’s hair in the past so this meant a lot to me . I am so grateful for this moment
  • Cooking for the family and just being intentional about my day was quite special and that everyone acknowledged it wa super special for me
  • That everyone agreed and adopted the special plate was super special on its own . Damn the excitement from my kids was out this this world hey
  • I got a cash gift from kg – listen 👂🏽 I am riiiiiccchh 😆😆😆
  • Kg giving me a photoshoot with excitement and so much energy. Honestly this was his best show up moment and kudos to my husband people ! He outdid himself , I changed into 3 outfits in a space of 45 minutes 😃and he was so hyped up about it all!
  • Kg was the dj for the evening and the mood was perfect
  • My friend and family wishing me well and my best friend T sent me cash 💰 I can’t wait to spoil myself !
  • I baked my own cheesecake for the first time – like helooo
  • I just know that this was by far my best birthday celebration ever

In that way , I say I am grateful that I was with my family in this special day. I have grown to love celebrating birthdays thanks to Kg and my friends .

Can’t wait for the after Covid shenanigans 🤣

A testimony from a lemon tree during Covid

After many days of not going to the front part of our yard , I finally did. As I drove past , I saw something that looked a little bit like a miracle . A medium sized lemon hanging on my lemon tree . The same tree I was talking to last year with all hope lost that it will ever bear fruit !!!

Listen !!! I finally have lemons in my tree – even if it’s just one lemon . This tree had something to prove and the lyrics from Travis Green overwhelmed my heart when I saw this . The tree heard me and it just sad , I will stay , even if I show her with one lemon , I want to show her that I am capable. I cannot explain the feeling of seeing a proper , well rounded , the size of a lemon I usually get from the shops, hanging there , right in front of my eyes. Omg 😳

This tree was so close to being cut and thrown out in my yard. But I took one last step of faith last year . I got all the manure , I spoke to the tree and expressed my concerns and now boom . One lemon 🍋, this is worth a celebration!!!!

Oh the overwhelming
Never ending
Reckless love of God
Oh it chases me down
Fights ’til I’m found
Leaves the ninety nine
I couldn’t earn it
I don’t deserve it
Still You give Yourself away
Oh the overwhelming
Never ending
Reckless love of God

There’s no shadow
You won’t light up
Mountain You won’t climb up
Coming after me
There’s no wall
You won’t kick down
Lie You won’t tear down
Coming after me

The tree reminded me of this song. How much God loves us all. How much His love is never ending. How much He will leave the ninety nine just to show up for you . In the moment of despair when I was about to cut this tree , it showed up for me. Even with one lemon , it showed up.

God will show up , in your moment of being alone , He will leave the ninety nine and come for one . That’s the God I serve !!

Matters of the heart – what does Covid take away and what does it bring ?

Like most families , the Covid pandemic has affected us negatively too. We will be losing part of our income and according to the government schedule it doesn’t seem like work will be going on until the last stage, which may be another two months from the date of this blog post. This does make sense because of the nature of work my husband is in , which is travel.

This has affected us as a family , whilst we have faced a job loss before , this experience doesn’t take away the anxiety from the fear of the unknown and I think in part this is what my body and soul needed to process.

My peace of mind is absolutely gone. I say so because I have not been having normal sleeping hours. I doesn’t matter how exhausted I am , I will be in my bed say 22:30 and I will still be up by 1am , can’t sleep. Then I am up by 8am. Something I am totally not used to.

I started having headaches, on a daily basis consistently . All of my sanity would be feeling fine except I would be having this excruciating headache from nowhere. The only way for it to go has been through grandpa powder medication. So I have bee depending on them for about two weeks straight . Then I had a terrible gum infection , it lasted for a good 8 days before I sought help. I finally got antibiotics and pain medication and my life felt almost normal. And lastly I’ve had my arm being badly hurt , and I don’t even recall what happened to cause the scar.

All of the above are signs telling me something is wrong . I need to sit and be quiet . Listen to my body , listen to my soul. Take it in and allow the pain to express itself , the best way it wants . When all of this is done , I will come out like gold.

As a result I have been giving myself a lot of permission slips that read as follows:

  1. I give myself permission to be afraid. I am afraid of being depressed , losing hope and losing touch with the world . Allowing myself to feel this or even write it has been hard
  2. I give myself permission to worry about how our family will cope with an adjusted income or a possible complete loss of income
  3. Allow myself to draw faith and testimony from the fact that we have been through this before and we saw how our faith kept us going . In 2013 , we got pregnant with our first baby, 3months into it , I lost my dad and lost my job. My mentor said to me “ Nomusa , Gods never puts a baby in a womb without a plan to provide” I give myself permission to draw from this testimony that God did provide , we never lacked and our child is now six years old plus we have a second four years old too
  4. Allow myself to worry for and about KG but at the same time remember the vision 35. Agree and believe that this is the age the Lord told him to retire and that it comes as no coincidence should the job be lost . He knew since day one I met him that at 35 he would retire from formal employment.
  5. I give myself permission to allow the experience in its truest from whilst opening myself to the miracle right in front of my eyes
  6. I give myself to doubt and again be confident of the word the Lord gave me. I was told that 2020 is the year of Liquidation.
  7. Liquidation is a formal insolvency procedure in which a company is brought to an end; all of its assets are liquidated and the proceeds from the sale of assets is used to repay creditors.
  8. Give myself permission to believe that God is a way maker. Even though I don’t see Him working , He never stops working . God has this situation in control . Just because I cannot touch or feel it , it doesn’t mean it exists not

I have no doubt that 2020 is the year of liquidation. Something has come to an end. Pretentious life has come to an end . Anything that is not worth pursuing will not be part of my agenda after the lockdown

Clarity – is what COVID is giving to me . I am getting clearer and clearer. For this , I am grateful !!

Everyone that prophesied that’s it’s a year of clear vision was right too. It’s about time I get very clear about myself and what God says about me !!!

See All is made clear !!! What a wonder 🙌🏿🙌🏿

Cooking experiences during Covid

Listen !!!! I am so proud of myself , we are on day 35 and I can look back with so much pride. Before this I didn’t know that I was capable of creating nutritious meals for my family for 35 days straight . We talking 3 good meals a day and never once did I fail them . So I will wait for that mother of the Covid award everybody !!!

I basically had to find what works . Some nights I would defrost whatever I am preparing for the next day. I think the first 21 days were the hardest because I was very tight scheduled , strict and just didn’t want to drop the ball. But I believe after that I became more confident on my abilities and I also realized that I was being too hard on myself . So I took things slightly easier . Instead of making a full breakfast for everyone I just prepared corn flakes 🤷🏿‍♀️something I am not used to but everyone improvised and honestly everyone has been good team members and very grateful for all the trouble I got through .

Even in this state of uncertainty, I am just grateful for a moment to pause and show up for my family in a manner that would have been completely impossible had it not been for COVID .

I am a doer – what am I avoiding

I am in my thirties and I have learned that this is a perfect time to put into words the person that I am ? Why so ? Well at 37 I pretty much cannot fool myself by describing the person I hope to be with regards to value systems , beliefs, personality and character . That statement by Maya Angelou finally makes sense “ when a person tells you who they are , believe them “ I never used to talk about myself in any particular context until now. Perhaps it’s because of years of feeling misunderstood and now that I am older I no longer allow that and I come in to save the people the story they might tell themselves about me.

This does not in anyway seek to eliminate the ever available opportunity for growth and change . However it provides a window for one to see themselves for who they truly are . Basically give the facts about oneself

At 37, I am making peace with the following facts about myself :

  • I am a doer
  • Which also means I am very active
  • Action oriented
  • I love to solve problems which I consistently name challenges
  • I find comfort in being busy
  • Which also means that this is how I burn whatever energy I am in in that moment
  • Both positive and good energy
  • I work when I am sad
  • And I also work when I am happy
  • When sad – to burn the sadness , anger and disappointment
  • When happy – to exceed the last performance that I set, did it achieved

This means I am a very good distraction candidate and I honestly cannot point to the exact moment when this began I my life . But I am pretty sure that I was very very young when I started on this journey . I personally find pleasure in doing house chores. I can clean the house , do laundry from sunrise until sunset . This was my past time activity as a kid . Never had TV until I was 16, so I don’t relate very well with the box , had a cat until I was 4 years old and my mom used to make me dolls from her old stockings .

Honestly all I wanted to do when I was a kid was spend time with my mom, as a result I copied everything she did. I cleaned the house and she didn’t allow me to cook until I was in my teens , so I just showed up for the rest. And it gave me some quality time to by myself . Something I treasured , I think it’s because we were always a crowd of not more than five kids at the time in my house. Loved it , but somehow I still ended up laying up under my bed with my stockings doll, singing and telling myself stories .

Anyway back to being a doer. Basically what I have learned is that I don’t process stuff immediately, I shove them or file them in a shelf somewhere and unfortunately never make the time to go back to the shelf to deal with whatever is bothering me . Now we know that’s not healthy

How this came to me during this lockdown- we must have been on day 28 or so , my daughter asked me what happened to my arm , I made up a story and I quickly realized that I don’t remember . Not only was I seriously bruised, but I remember the amount of blood and the pain I felt from this , but just like that , I had shoved that painful experience to some invalid , non important event in my life . I mean there is a bigger crisis right ? Mhhn – wrong

So not only was this an eye opener for me , but I started asking myself what else is happening around and in me that I am not processing . My very first admission was to say within myself and I made a confession about this “ I don’t know how to do this” I whispered a prayer , Dear Heavenly Father , help me.

It would be lovely to look back at this Covid experience with genuine feeling and not fazed memories of not being in the present moment . Especially the pain of it all. I emphasize on the pain because I excel on the grace and gratitude.

And so , this is how this picture came about . Me sitting under the tree , meditating , crying, pouring my soul and allowing all fears all feelings to flood me and be still in the moment .

For this moment , I am grateful

The baking chronicles of Covid -19

I have never baked like this in my entire life ! The consistency , the curiosity and the amount of patience I have to try out new things has surprised me !!! I am throughly grateful for a moment to create these beautiful memories for myself and family alike.

With the shops having long queues because of the social distancing , I had to look for alternatives to bread 🍞 and baking has saved my life .

Baking buns is by far my biggest and most favorite baking achievement!! And I will tell you why . My mother used to make these soft fluffy buns that used to call my name and wake me up from the bed no matter how early in the morning it was. These buns remind me of home and they just bring so many memories of my life growing up and watching my mother making coal fire and mixing the flour to make these . I was pleasantly surprised that I did a good job for a first attempt 👍🏾👍🏾. There is nothing in the world that smells like these buns and everyone in my family said they could smell them from my phone – listen that’s a compliment I’d take any day all time. My mother thought I got an instant flour (as I am known for keeping things easy) and she was impressed that I made these from scratch . Anyway do check @thelazymakoti for the recipe 👍🏾👍🏾

Cheese cake 🍰 – I made my own cheese cake from scratch ! I felt all kind of feelings because I have been eating this dessert which is my ultimate favorite for yeeeaaaarrssss , this is the dessert that was served on my wedding day too . I bought the kit a while back , I probably had it for six months already and only now I got to try it ! All I can say is – this was the best cheesecake I have ever tasted – okay – 😃. Come dine with me here I comeeee 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

Pancakes 🥞- there is no life without pancakes in my house oooaakaaay. The girls really love it and we now know how to make them from scratch . Easy peasy lemon squeezy as the girls would say ! Yummy 😋