Book Review – Success Commandments by Devon Franklin

Once upon a time I was employed as a Bookkeeper , my very first employment after University .

My duties included taking care of the general staff and affairs of the company including the receptionist who was my boss’s close relative. She used to fast most of the weekdays and would , from time to time step into the bathroom .. to pray … which meant neglecting the front desk and the calls …. in order to pray

Each time she did that she would call out to me to mind the front office and this impacted my work negatively

I was caught between a rock and a hard place. I didn’t want to tell my boss and I knew that I needed to master the courage to speak to her about this

The biggest challenge for me was not the fasting and the prayer , but the timing and her seemingly lack of understanding of her role and expectations of her job and position

Reception/ front desk is the face of the company . To date , a phone that rings 3 times gets my gut moving 🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

It didn’t take me a few days to sit her down and ask her to pray during lunch …. not because it was wrong to pray …. and not because I didn’t want to chip in for her but because that’s what she was hired to do .

She hated me for this 🤣🤣🤣🤣

And she asked if I was a real Christian 🤣🤣🤣

Granted , our office did need a lot of prayers but that was just not the way nor the time you do it !!!

This act assured me that indeed I am called !!! I am able to separate my faith and beliefs and not have them cloud my responsibility

I confidently defended my actions and logic to my boss – her relative . I was proud of myself for risking that for my conviction 👏🏿

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I hope this does makes sense

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Sadly I have seen Christians doing these mistakes over and over in a workplace. I used to assume that all Christians have a sense of a calling about their day to day jobs and it didn’t take me long to realize that , it was not the case

During my early career days it used to make so sad until I realize that we lacked a certain perspective

We don’t get taught enough how to be stewards who take our jobs seriously . We know God will reward the work of our hands but there is still a significantly huge gap between the work we do inside church walls vs the work we do at our workplaces daily

I have always worked with religious people in my work life and teams that I have managed , that some days I would pause and think , if all of them could put their convictions together and just teamed up , we could see miracles …

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Most Christians believe that their calling is within the four walls of the church

And that is not true !!!

We must aspire to be Joseph’s Meshack and Abednego…..

It is a must

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If you want to find out how to match your faith and your day to day work life please read this book !!!! I have never read a book like this before !!!

I meet people who ask me to mentor them and this is the book that will be part of the mentorship pack

If you can master the things written in this book ….. maaaaan you will be walking on water

Mncwiiiii struu 🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾

Thank you DeVon Franklin this book is incredible

Lesson #9 – Part 3

Cultivating calm and stillness – letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle

Dr Brene Brown has identified her own digging deep tools to which I aspire towards , that is calmness tools like meditation, stillness and reducing caffeine

So where am I in my life right now with regards to anxiety .???? I am in midlife and here is what I am identifying with –

It feels like the same experience Jesus had when going into Getsemane. A moment where he took his best three only to realize that the experience was for him and him alone

How do I relate ?

Mid life right now is about learning that I am on my own . In a very healthy way. That at the end of it all , no one else has my fingerprint on this earth so I got to go at it alone . Getsemane is the last stretch before the cross and the resurrection and so is midlife

An inspiring quote came to me today and it says , we imitate until we can innovate. And I feel like I have been in this cloud of protection and imitating for a better part of my life. It feels like innovation is setting in and that is who and how it was meant to me

It makes sense that Israel spent 40 years in the wilderness…. after the wilderness and midlife , one enters into sense of themselves and true identity. If I had a word for age 40 – I’d say it should feel like Canaan

It took Moses years before he could go to the land that the Lord has set before him . … before he could break away …So learning to grow up on its own is a lot of pressure . The wilderness , my upbringing has shaped the person I am today and has also given birth to dreams of the person I am meant to be but it has also given me thorns . Thorns that can hurt or grow me and thorns can cause stress

In fact T.D. Jakes says

Life = pressure

Love = pressure

Age = pressure

Midlife = pressure

Pressure to break away from who I used to be and to allow who I am meant to be

So how does all this relate to anxiety?

Jesus Christ was under so much stress at Getsemane that he sweat blood. Dr Phillips says that it has been proven that stress can cause sweat to become blood. This again gives me comfort that I can identify with Jesus and He identifies with me and my life’s experiences and what I go through

I am learning to let go of how things are supposed to be. The ideas about how the wilderness informed the promised the land

⁃ How life and career is “ supposed “ to be

⁃ How marriage is supposed to be

⁃ How raising kids is supposed to be

I am learning that God has kept His word all along and that now I have been assured , clearly that He’s got me .

I know that when I am 60 , in a stable and washing my horses , this is the message I’d want to here now in my thirties “ girl, relax , enjoy the ride , you have done well , all that you desire shall come to pass, you know it , so relax, enjoy your marriage and enjoy raising your babies” You got this

So I feel Jesus had a moment of loneliness in Getsemane because his disciples fell asleep. I have always heard preachers say they were not supposed to sleep but I beg to differ. In life there are experiences that even your best friend , your kids nor your husband cannot go through with you . They can stand by and root for you or sometimes they can fall asleep while you sweating blood and it’s okay. But that loneliness can be very scary I don’t prefer it …. I understand why Jesus said …. if it were me I’d say let it pass

So there’s an element of loneliness in this midlife experience . I can see clearly that I’m going for pressing . Pastor T.D. Jakes says Getsemane is a place of pressing olives , when an olive has been pressed , it produces oil

The outcome of Getsemane is always glorious but the process of Getsemane leaves much to be desired

I am inspired by a deep sense of self awareness and honesty. This helps keep me calm and know that this too shall pass

I am inspired by an amazing support structure in my family. On 31 January we had a 10cm mass which required a CT scan then biopsy etc. for my mom and the entire process made me realize that I suffer from post traumatic stress disorder. I was at the same time starting at a new employer and I just couldn’t shake the feeling that I wasn’t okay handling both at the same time. I asked for help and my family showed up. They were able to give me relief and take my mom to be with them and I was able to find some structure between the job and moms wellbeing. I also went straight to the doctor and he gave something to help calm me down.

I learned this year in that moment that I am afraid of death and being called an orphan if anything were to happen to my mom. So I faced death in the face and I said , even if God doesn’t come to save her , I will be fine . I am just glad I still have my mom , in a healthy state of being . This uncertainty about her life has humbled me dearly .

A twenty minutes exercise gives me a good sense of calm and gardening helps burn some energy and allows for clear energy to flow in. Blogging and writing about how I feel has by far been the best therapy and for this I am grateful 🙏

I aspire to get to a point of stillness and that is something I must still acquire. By Dr Brenes definition , I am an overfunctioner but I know I will get there … soon

I will be okay 🙏

Lesson #9 – Part 2

Cultivating calm and stillness – letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle

I have been sharing with my sisters in Christ that when in distress , I would say pray for peace and I would say repeatedly “ that alone is enough”

I was declaring this not knowing that this was the exact same promise Phillippians 4:7

“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

This is what comes after the scripture that says do not be anxious about anything. I have felt that when I truly acknowledge what is going on inside of me , not wishful thinking or proclamation of a desired situation. But when I become honest to myself about what is truly going on , what truly bothers me . That specific thing passes away because I was honest about it to God and to myself…

Now having grown up in church , speaking stuff and truth as is can sometimes feel like I am saying I am one of little faith . But I remembered a man who once lost an axe and a prophet asked where was it and the man pointed to the point where it fell off

When you are a person of faith , it is not always easy to point at where the axe fell off. It is not even a skill I have…. to own how I truly feel. It is very tempting to saying Ohw it fell but we believe and trust God etc etc etc . But no no no , in this case , in an anxiety filled time we point to the thing and we say it as is , as raw and hard as it is and we acknowledge it and we allow Gods peace to fill our hearts … peace is what you need when filled with worry and not so much tangible things

And I have learned that this is a skill to acquire 🤷🏿‍♀️

Let’s take a look at another scripture that blew my mind . This is a resource from Dr Anita Phillips

Matthew 13:22

The seed falling among the thorns refers to someone who hears the word, but the worries of this life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the word, making it unfruitful.

 

Another version: And that sown toward the thorns, this is he who is hearing the word, and the anxiety of this age, and the deceitfulness of the riches, do choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful.

 

Another version : And the one on whom seed was sown among thorns, this is the one who hears the word, but the worries and distractions of the world and the deceitfulness [the superficial pleasures and delight] of riches choke the word, and it yields no fruit.

 

This scripture made me conclude on one thing. What’s been choking me , got nothing to do with the seed God placed inside me . It has everything to do with the distractions and stuff that I have placed so much meaning to. I literally did a list to check how much of my stuff meets the criteria

But first before I share my list – Dr Anita explored further the issue of thorns

Remember apostle Paul ? – a thorn on his side – he asked God to remove it ? The scripture says it grew in the wilderness and God said nope , the thorn stays because my grace is sufficient

You know every time I reflected on this scripture I got goosebumps. For the first time I understood that wilderness is a part of who I am , an inherent attribute that I had to go through and thorns are those things that God may have removed but some He may have left them to be , because His grace is sufficient. I also learned that thorns do give some form of discomfort

There are thorns that I carry and an inherent part of me , purpose : to truly humble me and help me rely on God. I fully get this now

So through this process I started being a little kinder to myself because ohw man , the stuff that I worry about , is the stuff I acquired in my wilderness !! In my case , my wilderness is

Poverty

Poor quality education

Hence my list of anxiety causing stuff was

⁃ Inability to proceed further for a second qualification

⁃ Lack of proffessional qualification

⁃ Lack of academic belonging to my peers

⁃ Limited thinking towards the type of schools my kids will attend

⁃ Anxiety about staying married when most women in powerful positions get divorced

The relief I had when I finally merged the two —— haaaaaa

Because of my wilderness, poverty and poor quality of education . I desired wealth and defined good education as something else either than what I received . This also made me worried for my kids . Despite the fact that I am extremely successful , I just couldn’t take a moment to say thank you 🙏 I just still wanted more and the more I failed the more anxious I became and I just set an unrealistic bar and meaning to success and education

I finally learned that , what’s causing me anxiety are distractions about wealth , success , the future . I learned that I am still seeking control over the future and missing out on life 😭

So I have been saying this prayer being specific about what worries me

Dear Lord Jesus

I come to you in prayer , I acknowledge that you said you have plans for me , plans about the future. Lord I come to you with my worries , I cast my dares and my burdens unto you

I bring to you my insecurity about my academic success . I worry that I am less qualified and that I have not achieved the goal I was set to achieve and I forget that is all a process. When I close my mind I see clearly that I still have many years ahead of me to achieve whatever I want but when I wonder around , I get worried.

Dear Lord , I repent for not being grateful for your provision . I see your hand upon my life. I thank you for open doors and Lord I ask that you help give me peace about this area of my life

I know that you knew me before my parents conceived me and I know that my days are written in your book of life

Help me Lord enjoy the fruits of my labor, that is , the beautiful family home that you have provided unto us . Help me Lord to celebrate with my brothers and sisters to what has been provided unto them . I surrender the feeling of insecurity and I know it is a deep seated desire to want to belong but I know that you have given me the best and I am truly grateful…. stuff is not what I should use to measure myself and belong with.

I love our home I love how it brings so much joy and meaning to my life my kids and family. Help me use this time on this earth to use everything you have given unto us to serve you

And just because I am different and choose differently does not mean I don’t belong so I bring this insecurity to the cross. Help me to be content about the person you are making me and be content about being me because there is no other person like me on earth

I am grateful for the battles you have helped me fight and the rivers you have enabled me to cross. From the farms to the presidency

I thank you for an amazing experience of love and marriage . I ask for your peace and as you help me and KG choose each other daily , that we will rest in the knowledge that you will honor our commitment to one another

I ask that you will help me learn from the challenges of my other sisters in power and that I will not be anxious and lose my faith or be anxious in my marriage

And that Lord I will trust your assurance and calling and that you will provide both of us with wisdom and that you will send us the support for every season in our marriage

Dear Lord you see our hearts our desires our intentions to glorify you in our marriage to raise kids that honor and fear your name

Help us dear Lord

And finally Lord

As I post this prayer tonight I ask that you will help me to lead an anxiety resilient lifestyle as your word desires

You got me . You got my future . Grow the seed planted in me and enable me to thrive

In Jesus name I pray , amen

Dr Anita Phillips concludes

We see the thorns on the cross – Jesus put on a crown of anxiety – which basically means that even with our stress and anxiety , He died for us too !!!!

He hung on the cross , not leaving us behind , we was there and He rose again

So that we too can conquer !!!!

I am eternally grateful for the cross 🙏

Part – 3 to follow

Lesson #9 – Part 1

Cultivating calm and stillness – letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle

I feel like I have not mastered this chapter, 18 months later I know I have not. As a result I am writing this as a form of prayer and be open to the work of the Lord in my life.

I still have some of my days filled with so much anxiety and stress and I will hear myself making silent prayers of surrendering control and asking for peace.

This chapter has facts and one of those for me is this “ anxiety is extremely contagious , but so is calm” I have come to define myself as a chameleon when coming to anxiety. I remember specifically after giving birth to our first daughter . I was on anxiety and postnatal depression alert , I ran tests online over and over for myself to check if I pass or fail the tests …. reason ? Almost 4/5 of people I knew were either going into depression , in depression or coming out of depression . Some were on a relapse and that gave me a sense uneasiness about myself and honestly maybe even asking myself how come I am not going through what they were going through ….

Add to this the fact that I was three months pregnant when my dad passed away, he collapsed on my most important event , the day of ilobola. I was retrenched in that very same month May 2013 …. Fast forward 19 months later , my brother was gunned down and I was again pregnant with our second daughter. Honestly I did expect myself to be depressed and fall apart but I never did….. and that fact alone caused me anxiety …..

Instead of minding my peace I think I did spend a little of time wondering what’s next , am I going through it , is it coming , am I okay etc etc etc

What I go through is basically a state of worry and concern and mostly self doubt , I’m afraid this is a companion I have shared openly about and constantly aware of in my life and I am praying that the Lord helps give me a breakthrough

It is not healthy to doubt yourself just because you are not having the same struggles that people are going through around you , just as much as it’s important to mind my lane when everyone is prospering in their purpose , the opposite is also true and necessary when coming to challenges and I am afraid not many of us pay attention to that. This is what I mean about the chameleon personality when coming to people’s challenges …..

I have had to caution myself a few times , when I over emphasize to a point where I try diminishing my well being , mentally or otherwise in order to feel or sound more relatable. Therefore I know beyond a shadow of doubt that , shrinking is not only when things are good it can also happen during sadness or when someone is going through a bad patch.

To start off this Part – 1 on discussion about letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle, I found some amazing resources online and I am amazed at how much my understanding of scripture has been enhanced and so relevant …

Let us begin

Phillipians 4:6-7

Do not be anxious or worried about anything ,

But in everything

By prayer

And petition

With thanksgiving

Continue to make your specific requests known to God

The revelation for me about this scripture is that anxiety is a reality and it is something that exists BUT scripture tells us not to succumb to it!!!

So the starting point for me is first to acknowledge that anxiety is part of life , however God does not desire for me to lead an anxiety filled lifestyle

Secondly , anxiety emanates from needing something … I may be anxious about the well being of my family , a job security, belonging in a new company , all these things and my desire for well being may affect my state of peace and calm …wooow !!! Why would God says make your specific requests known to Him through prayer , petition and thanksgiving

Anxiety for me too is specific to something that went on , is going on or desired to go on in my life .

So it is my prayer that I will learn the art of praying and be thankful and be direct about what worries me to the Lord ….

No wonder when I practice the word in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 I feel a little lighter and a little hopeful about the future 🤷🏿‍♀️

Read on – Part – 2 on this topic

Lesson 8 – Cultivating intuition and trusting faith: Letting go of the need for certainty

“The opposite of faith is not doubt, but certainty. Certainty is missing the point entirely. Faith includes noticing the mess, the emptiness and discomfort, and letting it be there until some light returns. Faith also means reaching deeply within, for the sense one was born with, the sense, for example, to go for a walk.”

― Anne Lamott, Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith

Inspired by Dr Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfections.

This chapter has humbled me in so many ways and I remember listening to it over and over and just having lots of aha moments. These revelation moments came in huge bursts of laughter or sobbing moments until I reached work, I cried as I realised how far I had shifted from faith and intuition to a heightened desire for assurance and certainty in so many areas of my life. I am now constantly aware of these moments of fear of the future, or this data gathering process, whose intention does not strengthen my faith but does the complete opposite. The habits at time are meant with good intentions, but end up being used as a benchmarking process, which end up limiting my very own creativity because basically I would have stretched myself, BUT within certain limits, based on other bad experiences of the similar process or decisions made. I sometimes think being skilled in financial controls, detection and prevention contributes to this risk averse type of response to life.

This chapter made me understand the concept of the “first love “as the bible verse in Revelations so intimately refers to it.

Revelations 2: To the angel of the church in Ephesus write:

2 I know your deeds, your hard work and your perseverance. I know that you cannot tolerate wicked people, that you have tested those who claim to be apostles but are not, and have found them false. 3 You have persevered and have endured hardships for my name, and have not grown weary.

4 Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first. 5 Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first. If you do not repent, I will come to you and remove your lampstand

My first love

I remembered the 13 year old me, who trusted her own knowing beyond any shadow of doubt. I remembered the teenager in me who went ahead and forged a path for herself, trusting that the Lord will provide. I trusted, I had complete faith. I did not have any past experiences to refer to, but I had a deep sense of knowing that whatever I believe and feel inside me, this was my true north.

My first love, was a teenager hiking on the N3 road, having faith, that even in the harsh world of kidnappers and scary stories of hitch hiking, mine would be a different story to tell. I was going for my dreams and no one was going to stop me

My first love, was me cutting my hair and going bold, because I said to myself “I never want to worry about the cash to do my hair”, looking beautiful was not a priority, studying and changing the world was the goal

My first love, was me braving the wilderness of University, two years not knowing what sanitary pads are and relying on pieces from a washed out bed sheet that my mom cut out for me. It was me wearing clothes with holes on them but not allowing them deter my confidence because I was going for gold.

My first love, was faithing it through university, with minimal access to resources but going for gold. My first love, was my rise in the corporate world, the clearly visible anointing and God’s presence, as He honoured my faith I and saw that he loved me so much and I knew that all things are possible

 

 

Certainty and threats to our faith

“The opposite of faith is not doubt, but certainty. Certainty is missing the point entirely. Faith includes noticing the mess, the emptiness and discomfort, and letting it be there until some light returns. Faith also means reaching deeply within, for the sense one was born with, the sense, for example, to go for a walk.” Anne Lamott, Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith

I concur with Dr Brene when she says, wholehearted living requires becoming comfortable with uncertainty. Indeed when I was young I drank milk and God showed up and honoured my innocence. Upgrading to a meat platter requires some growing up and double the courage I have ever mastered in my entire life.

Going at it alone was never an issue when I was younger, but as I grew, I identified that there was a sense of belonging that I desired and had not learned how to cultivate it. And at times this need meant limiting what makes me to stand out. But this belonging is sometimes a fear of being vulnerable and going at it alone. I definitely concur, that as a church girl, being in a crowd with people of similar pace, path, provides more assurance and yes also belonging. Being completely different might not always be welcomed or I perceive it that way at least.

This makes sense as to why many church people in my eyes were highly predictable in their deeds and future

Past Experiences

The biggest challenger of faith for me has been past experiences. As I grew up into adulthood , the box of experiences, some mine or colleagues, relatives and friends become more visible and REAL. I have also learned that no matter the faith, no one can take my experiences away, my experiences are my truth. My experiences are all that I know and my own story.

So with life sadness and disappointments, it becomes easier to lean into certainty as a tool or solution to avoid failure and or disappointments. And this is the biggest LIE of them all which leads to nothing but mediocrity and sadness. In fact this lesson is closely linked to that of perfectionism

The saying that if I do it right correctly I am avoid pain . Certainty is the groundwork for perfectionism.

It says , if I can control it , enroll it and direct it , the outcome is certain and assured …

With regards to past experiences in fact , I can identify with Mephibosheth , the bible says (Jonathan son of Saul had a son who was lame in both feet. He was five years old when the news about Saul and Jonathan came from Jezreel. His nurse picked him up and fled, but as she hurried to leave, he fell and became disabled.

It is very difficult to trust again that anyone else can carry you and set the table before your enemies, when you have been dropped before and you became lame. It is challenging to rise again, when you have bad experiences, some from your own doing, some made with good intentions. Especially those experiences which yielded the not so desirable outcomes and especially when they occur publicly for everyone to see and witness.

My experiences have the potential to paralyse me, if I am not careful. My disappointments have a potential to lock me up  in a deserted place , where I am locked up and I don’t dream, I don’t fight , I don’t rise up . . .  because I failed before, because I was embarrassed, because people saw me fail and so I will not try again until I am sure that I will get it right  . . . 

And this is not how life is supposed to be, we are supposed to try again, trust again and believe again, even if it was our fault , we must rise again

 

Certainty about the future

One of the areas that I was always curious in was making a decision on whom to marry. I specifically recall a discussion with a friend of mine who had recently got married in 2007, she said “marriage is taking a risk”, I was so taken aback by that, ohw my goodness, I thought to myself how can it be a risk taking project?? Goodness me??? I didn’t get it.

 Innocently because for the longest time in my church girl life, I had heard that one can AVOID failing in marriage through the following:

·         God  giving you assurance of the partner to marry as a result this will eliminate the possibility of divorce

·         But unfortunately , I lived through the full circle of the church and quickly realized divorces occurring even for the “confirmed” by the vision from God marriages

·         But I still genuinely thought there is some way of “avoiding “this uncertainty

·         One of the solutions was fasting and prayer – seeking clarity  – and yet I still witnessed the end of those marriages

·         The big explanations would come and say , God did not intend for you to marry that person – yet still, second, third marriages ended up in the same place

I finally understood this phenomenal as I grew up and when time came for me to make my own decisions in love. I still needed God’s assurance that He’s got me and that I will not move without Him. However I had a deep sense of knowing that only grace, faith, trust and working out my own faith and trust in God, can sustain any commitments on this planet.

Most importantly I realized that our need for certainty about the future is at times our own way of neglecting our own responsibilities to working out our own faith. It seemed to me like we go to God and say give me, and as we sometimes say in church, if He gave me nobody can take it away, yet we become the very first people, seconding and delegating our roles and responsibilities to third and fourth parties who were not party to this commitment

I recall the Holy Spirit saying to me, Nomusa, if you have to work out your own faith, how much more about marriage?

The degree of assurance and confirmation from God, does not remove the possibility of a marriage ending, that’s your responsibility, do not delegate it to anyone!

 

The little foxes

Song of Songs 2:15 New International Version (NIV)

15 Catch for us the foxes,
    the little foxes
that ruin the vineyards,
    our vineyards that are in bloom.

I have seen the little foxes in my life showing up, sometimes disguised as dreams and passion. We identified this quickly with my husband, how the need to know that we are going to be alright, can take away from the fulfillment and joy for living our lives today and now.

We once stayed in a 2 bedroom townhouse and we had to share our space. We quickly noticed how uncomfortable it was and we had this one day where sat down and identified this feeling as a little fox. Yes the place was cramped, but we had a lot to be grateful for. We were building our dream of raising 2 baby girls, yes sleeping on the floor for 2 years was uncomfortable but it did not take away the joy of the moment and the fact that our babies were healthy. From that day onwards, we adopted to intentionally hang out in our space, make braais, and invite people over. The need for certainty about our future was not going to rob us, of the sweet little moments of the day to day life we were leading.

I also saw the little foxes as I was worrying about baby number 3, when might we think she / he might come, when can I anticipate to stop family planning etc etc . Meanwhile we are raising a 3 year old and a 5 year old. I heard the Holy Spirit syas, you are worried about the future and you want assurance today and neglecting your two beautiful gifts , that you prayed so hard for and said you are grateful, yet your behavior is far from that of a grateful  person.

You see when you are a vision board type of a person you want to be aware of things before they occur. It gives a sense of control and sometimes a false inclination that you can detect and prevent any unforeseen circumstances

But life doesn’t always work like that

Certainty about the future sometimes goes hand in hand with being ungrateful for what we have and our lack of faith.

But thank God for Christ Jesus, today we can pray like that man in the Bible and say Lord I believe but help my unbelief

 

I do believe now when the word of God says now faith is the substance of things hoped for ….. right now in my life .. this substance is gratitude and peace of mind

Because when you have faith that all will be alright , you live in the moment of gratitude and not discontent. You works towards your goals enjoying the process and being present on the process !!!! The danger of being discontent is that you will actually achieve your dreams and still not realize it because you were ungrateful

Lastly, I have had to be careful with my need for mentorship . I wrote a post when I was 26 years old and stated that I needed a mentor. It didn’t take me long to realize that I was in a process of making a big life decision and was not trusting myself enough to go at it alone.

I recall the whisper saying … be willing to make the decision and be willing to fail !

You see sometimes our need for a mentor is for us to have someone make decisions on our behalf. And I have realized that a hundred percent of the time we are capable of making our own decisions and living with the consequences. I am in now way discounting the fact finding process and research . But I know for a fact that the majority of issues we consult on , truly required to go at it alone

But because we need validation and assurance that we will belong even if things go south. We step out and ask. I have equally seen dangers of advise given with an intention by the mentor to self correct their own past mistakes. A very dangerous thing to the mentee

So I have come to accept that I can do all things and that over consulting to give certainty does not reduce the failure rate nor reduce hurt and disappointment

I have reached a point in life where I have to be comfortable with uncertainty because I trust the one who knows the future

So help me God

And so this is how I dig deep. I have been reading this chapter for over year and have been able to link from my past areas where I needed assurance about the future. In all the times when I felt anxiety about something , for the past year I would just play this chapter on Audible and I would suddenly name the exact area and define why I feel anxious from a lack of knowing

These moments could be a situation in my relationship with my husband or kids . I would after identifying the real issue , come and discuss with honesty and indicate why the need for knowing and how best to handle it or to surrender it to God

Have your past experiences limited your level of faith or do your passion and dreams make you forget that you have come so far and must take a moment to enjoy your life today ? I would like to hear from you 👍🏾

Love

Faithing