Sleeping time not so easy

I think I spoke too soon about how great the sleeping time is going for us

It’s not going great for us anymore , we going through the emotions and feeling like we are neglecting our babies

Look changing a parten of almost four years of sharing the bedroom with our kids will not be an easy thing to do 

We miss them terribly and now we are having conversations of how are we going to build our bond together 

You see the routine has always been as follows 

I am up at 5:15 I get myself ready , easy because I go to the gym prior to work,then I prepare my 3 year old for Creche, I bath her myself and have always done so for all her school days, this year being her second year. We leave the house at 6am and I drop her at Creche by 6:10 latest.

Our youngest remains behind with our helper

Kg picks Katlego up at 5pm from the creche and they are home by 5:05 latest. I arrive home by 5:30 depending on the traffic 

Between 5:30 and 6:00 it’s usually time to settle in , greetings, changing our work clothes to our casual clothes. It’s lots of kisses, lots of pick ups , huggies and just finding out about each other’s days. It’s the time I use to defrost something if I forgot to take it out in the morning, which is many times πŸ˜†

Then back to the routine, ausi Sarah steps in, takes the kids for a bath, I prepare dinner and by 7:30 pm we are all done. These days I do the laundry in between my cooking πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ

Some days once they are done with their bath, I squeeze in lessons, from drawing, coloring, counting etc. I always keep the lessons to a maximum of 30 minutes. This so that I don’t get overwhelmed and to keep them excited for more the next time. 

Usually ausi Sara gives them their meals before we have ours. This has worked out very well as we prefer for them to eat pap. Kg doesn’t eat pap so having them eat before us sort of allows them not to crave what eat later on

Also by the time we eat, they always have bites of our food as their dessert…. makes me miss my dad because I would always stand next to him when he was eating pap and amasi. He always yelled out “kanti awusuthi na” or he would ask my mom “lomntwana ubulawa yindlala na” and I have learned that there’s just a beautiful feeling that I got when I could pick a spoon and dig in with my dad

And so I love it when my kids choose the tomatoes on my plate, they love beetroot, carrots, tomatoes , spinach and they will finish my food before I even get to eat. I just took it as my other way of helping my weight loss project πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€. It’s a beautiful experience I must say. At the back of my mind I do wish to have a formal dining with the family every night since I love to cook, but until then , out informal dinner setting purely reminds me of home and I appreciate it 

Once dinner is done which is consistently by 7:30 pm I either do the dishes or ausi Sarah takes care of them

I will either continue with the laundry these days and the cartoon channel will be on. Prior to the change in bedroom I would take the time to prepare the bedroom for sleeping time. One team on the floor which must be made comfortable with lots of blankets πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€no spongeπŸ€¦πŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ€¦πŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ€¦πŸΎβ€β™€οΈ. This is the easy part, picking up the blankets in the morning is something I didn’t look forward to and honestly I did leave it for our helper most of the times. This is one part that the new sleeping arrangement has eliminated, a plus for meπŸ‘πŸΎ

By 8pm everybody is usually cuddling up on the bed , which would be me and Kgaogelo and Kg and Katlego would be on the floor. Once the lights are switched off, it takes less than ten minutes for everybody to start snoring 

Kg wakes Katlego about twice at night to go make a wee. Then at 5:30 she’s up getting ready for school 

There are so many memories and crazy things that we miss. Sometimes Katlego will want to sleep by me, yet in the middle of the night she will crawl back to papa. The feeling of having them so close to us gave us the feeling of being complete and whole I guess 

Even when one is struggling to sleep for whatever reason , I miss saying my night prayers and seeing how calm and peaceful they get and instantly go back to sleep 

I am grateful for the path of growing and I’m appreciative of the significant changes this has brought 

1. I don’t have to switch off the lights so soon just so that someone can go to sleep, this has helped me throw in one chapter of a book I have been struggling to make time to read

2. I have since managed to catch up 1 day with the Bible study program that I had missed for more than 365 days, I’m not obsessed with it but it’s good habit for my soul to have spiritual nourishment 

3. Yesterday I flossed and brushed my teeth before going to bed …. honestly I’m not going to say when last I did that πŸ€¦πŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ€¦πŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ€¦πŸΎβ€β™€οΈ

4. I wake up being sooo well rested and I am grateful for a good night sleep, I had completely forgotten how that even feels like 

5. My morning is much more calm, I’m not tripping over blankets, shoes and toys, my bedroom is looking much better in the morning and I have managed to make it up each morning as a result 

6. I realize that Kg and I have extra time to catch up and have a great conversation and more πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜† πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

7. I’m seeing an opportunity to have time with Jesus , either at night or in the fact. It’s been four years without 

8. I now understand how such an arrangement is beneficial for a studying parent. For the longest time Kgaogelo would wake up every time I get up, I learned she sleeps through the night now πŸ‘ŒπŸΎπŸ‘ŒπŸΎ

This is what we are mindful of

1. That relating to our kids must have more informal settings which being in the same bedroom provided for. From the time of coming back from work to eating it feels so formal that one feels you can’t even laugh out loud because you are on a schedule πŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈ..,, we need to figure out what this means for us 

2. Bedtime stories were easy to do when they are right beside me , it requires a lot more effort to do it when I’m not in the warm blanket or just the way I’m used to. In fact I have not introduced it in the new arrangement 

3. We want to make sure that Katlego continues with her potty training, which we are surprised that she has voluntarily woke up by herself and went did the wee wee 😳😳😳😳😳. So far the roof leaked once… potty training requires ausi Sarah to wake up , which deprives her of her sleep but it seems it might not be so if she manages to wake up by herself 

4. Kgaogelo shares a bed with ausi Sarah and we know Kgaogelo to be an early bird. I’m realizing that it could have been made by the fact that she knew we were around and off course the noise we made when preparing ourselves. For three days Kgaogelo woke up after 6 amπŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈthat’s a first 

5. We are mindful not to overburdened ausi Sara, the kids are ours and she’s here to help. Thankfully we have never required of her to be up in the wee hours of the morning. With the kids in the other bedroom it’s even better because Kgaogelo is usually asleep when we leave. In the old routine Kgaogelo would be up which meant she also had to be up to mind her. We can now let them sleep and only wake up once they are ready 

This process has taught me a lot. The fact that Katlego woke up to make wee by herself, the fact that Kgaogelo can sleep through the night until past six and finally they look happy and smiling when they see us. The kids are fine 

Change always fosters growth !!!!!! 

I didn’t know that they were capable of doing all this so soon

Dear God 

Help us raise our kids to know you and live a life in reverence of your name 

In Jesus name, amen 

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